What Not to Do on your First Date

Wed, 05/27/2009 - 21:18 —Rick

Finally, you’ve arranged for your first date. While you shouldn’t go out of your way to impress your partner, remember that a first date comes only once in a lifetime. Make the most of it and ensure that it is followed by the second. This doesn’t mean that you have to do anything out of the ordinary. There are some first date don’ts that you can keep in mind to make this long-awaited event successful.

Do not Pretend

Being somebody other than yourself can spoil your first date. Creating an image that one can’t live up to is meaningless. It only makes you nervous. Trying too hard can make the situation uncomfortable. Saying something only to receive a response may look awkward. However, this does not mean you should be laidback. Present the best of yourself.

Do not get Overexcited

Getting hyper about the date is one of the most important first date don’ts. Don’t experiment with your grooming routine. You may end up going overboard. Keep your expectations low. This will help you have a more fulfilling experience. Investigating about your date on Google is okay, but bombarding him/her with your research during the date will be creepy.

Do not lose your Focus

Your attention throughout your first date should be on your partner. The good-looking person at the next table and non-stop calls on your cell phone can be ignored. Avoid asking about former relationships. Focus on the present. Know your date. Respect her/his presence and keep everything else – the venue of the date or what you order - as a secondary issue. Set aside your prejudices and don’t be judgemental.

Talking about yourself continuously is also not a very good idea. So, keep a check on the nattering. Neither reveal nor demand personal information beyond a particular extent.

Do not come on too Strong

Discussing future plans (like marriage) and traumatic events of the past must be avoided. Once you reach a certain level of comfort, talking out these things makes more sense and adds strength to the relationship. For the first date, however, keep it light. Stay away from following a rigid agenda. Spell the charm of your spontaneity and have fun with your date.

So, don’t think about the first date as something that will make or break your life. The biggest among the first date don’ts is – Don’t forget to have fun!