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Why Teenagers are Teenagers

Mon, 09/14/2009 - 23:11 —Swati

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There’s so much written about teenagers
that you really wonder what to think and may even ask yourself, “Am I dealing
with people from another planet?” Teens who say “Leave me alone” or “It’s my
life, don’t you get it?” are just being teenagers. Their emotional
rollercoaster rides can be baffling and worrying for unprepared parents.
Understanding their emotional outbursts is important to communicate with them
effectively. In this way, one can find a friend in them and establish a trust
based relationship.

 

Truth be told, a host of factors influence
this emotional turbulence that you find in teenagers. It is not always related
to dissimilar world views that they have just because their bodies are changing
but it relates to their emotional fluctuations as well.

 

Factors
that Affect Teenagers

Loving themselves first comes naturally to
teenagers, yet the following factors affect their

 

Physical
changes: Most teenagers, be it boys or girls, are
fascinated and eager to understand more about their physical changes.  They want to look, dress and behave exactly
like their peers, which is why issues like acne and overweight tend to depress
them easily.

 

Some worries they have about their physical
changes are:

 

  • Being far behind their peers in showing signs of puberty
  • Being unique and daring to be different along with their
    friends

 

Heartbreaks
and aches: Just as teenagers love themselves, they try
to find a friend in the opposite sex. Usually, a crush develops into something
more tangible like:

  • a first date
  • spending time with a person they like

 

This doesn’t result in a long lasting
relationship, but it is essentially a phase of emotional mapping. 

 

Unpredictable: Most parents (and teens) agree that you can’t predict what
teenagers would do. Sometimes, teens attempt to find a friend in their parents
for advice about something and become upset when parents offer to talk about
it.

 

Rebellious:
Nearly every teenager goes through this phase of
rebellion, particularly in defying the rules set by their parents. Some issues
that most tests the parent-teen relationships include:

 

·        
Cleaning their room

·        
Entering their room without
knocking or asking permission first

·        
Being dropped or picked up from
school by a parent

 

For teenagers, their social life consumes
their whole existence and fortifies their feeling of self assertion and
independence. Breaking away from family rules seems the easiest thing for them to
feel independent and in control. With a little understanding of why teenagers
behave the way they do, it is possible for parents to find a friend in teens do
not head into that abyss.

 

 

 

 

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